Fixing Dog Problems – It Begins with the Relationship
Dog problems develop mainly because of what owners “Do” and “Don’t Do” with their dogs.
The reality is most people do not “Get It” as it applies to what the dog expects – and needs.
When people get dogs, some of those dogs bring issues with them. With other dogs—- some issues develop because of their relationship with their owners.
Why do problems result from the relationship between owner and dog?
Here are some reasons:
An owner does not require anything of their dogs, (such as a sit or down), instead, these dogs do exactly what they want until owners scream, “Enough already!” Some owners spoil their dogs by constantly lavishing love and affection on the dog, which often times creates dominance and aggression.
In addition, way too many dogs have just an overabundance of energy that is left unmanaged by their owners. This leads to a bunch of other dog problems like: digging, chewing, and barking.
While each dog can have different behavioral problems, fixing them first requires a basic understanding of your relationship with your dog – from the dog’s point of view.
You need to take the time to understand the world your dog lives in
I have always said that all dogs need the following:
Rules to follow,
boundaries to respect and
expectations of what to do and when to do it.
And the things you expect your dog to do also need to be: reasonable, predictable and consistent—in your dog’s eyes
As an example let’s take a very simple activity – the routine of eating. With food, dogs understand very clearly about the order and control of food. Food has high value to your dog. IF twice a day, 7 days a week you eat first, then you feed your dog – requiring them to sit and down (work for food) – then this is (1) reasonable, (2) predictable and (3) consistent.
Now if you take this very simple concept to include more things that have value to your dog like:
access to space,
games and walks
All given by you, in very reasonable, predictable and consistent ways, YOUR importance to your dog becomes even greater. Dogs “lock on and learn” the pattern of routines connected to any or all of the “valuable” things listed above. And with dogs, these routines begin to create security. Security breeds confidence in a dog. The more secure and confident your dog, the less stress and consequently the fewer dog problems you will have with your dog.
It’s simple. You just have to do it consistently.
If you think about it, all of these activities are “pack” activities and dogs really relate to all of the things that you do together as a pack – eating, resting, playing, walking and yes dog training together on obedience commands. Your dog must have reasonable life expectations that for him, are predictable and consistent. Doing sits and downs to earn all of these things create a routine that makes him feel secure). His need of and love of these routines will work for you over time allowing you to accomplish all of your doggie goals.
Developing your dog’s self-confidence and his confidence in you, begins to create a relationship of trust and balance in the dog that was previously unbalanced – a dog that previously had no expectations of what to do and when to do it. Dogs that are insecure, fearful/distrustful or otherwise out of control will begin to look you in a different way – the way of being important to them. You care for them and they want to “belong” so the dog starts seeking your approval to be a part of your pack. As you begin to see your dog wanting your approval more frequently, the commands you prefer your dog to do – like sit to greet – become much easier to accomplish with your dog
To develop the best relationship you can have with your dog, remember that dogs communicate best with us when we take advantage of using our body language, eye contact and tone of voice.
Show your affection with your touch (body language);
Let your dog know you appreciate what he has done with warm sincere praise (tone of voice) and,
Make sure you give-and get attention (eye contact.)
All of this will begin to create “calm expectations” with your dog as you build a lasting trust in the relationship with your dog.
It is so easy. You can start today. Revolutionize your communication with your dog
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Jim Burwell is a “thanks for making the impossible, possible” professional dog trainer having trained 20,000+ dogs and counting and serving more than 7,000 clients. Jim’s easy to follow, common sense, and positive methods have made him the “dog trainer of choice” for 30 years. One of his clients says it best: There are people who are so good at, and passionate about, what they do, that in their presence, one can’t help thinking that they have found their true calling and are doing exactly what they should be doing on this earth. Jim is one of these rare people. His quiet and understated manner, his effective technique for training dogs (and their families) is something which I feel fortunate to have witnessed and in which to have been an active participant. Jane Wagner
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